Love in Islam
( this is specially for those who say love is not permitted in Islam
#dawah )
To love someone is a natural emotion, and there is absolutely no sin if one loves another person; it is what one does and says after one has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!
If one falls in love, and informs one’s guardians that they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
But if one falls in love, and strives to meet or talk to the person in secret and in private, and in their love transgress the boundaries of Allah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran (Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: 5 )
This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.
The basic difference is that love between man and woman in the Islamic context can only be realized and expressed in a legal marriage.
In order to develop a healthy avenue for the expression of love between a man and woman, and to provide security so that such a loving relationship can flourish, it is necessary to give it the protection of Shariah (Islamic law).
Marital love in Islam inculcates the following:
1) Faith:
The love Muslim spouses have for each other should be for the sake
of Allah and to gain His pleasure. It is from Allah that we claim our mutual
rights (Quran 4:1) and it is to Allah that we are accountable for our behavior as husbands and wives.
2)It sustains:
Love is not to consume but to sustain.
Allah expresses His love for us by providing sustenance. To love in Islam is to sustain our loved one physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually, to the best of our ability.
(Note : To sustain materially is the husband’s duty. However, if the wife wishes she can also contribute)
3)Accepts:
To love someone is to accept them for who they are. It is selfishness to try and mould someone as we wish them to be. True love does not attempt to crush individuality or control personal differences, but is magnanimous and secure to accommodate differences.
4)Challenges:
Love challenges us to be all we can, it encourages us to tap into our talents and it takes pride in our achievements. To enable our loved one to realize their potential is the most rewarding experience.
5)Merciful:
Mercy compels us to love and love compels us to have mercy. In the Islamic context the two are synonymous.
The attribute Allah chose to be the supreme for Himself is that He is the most Merciful. This attribute of Rahman (the Merciful) is mentioned 170 times in the Quran,emphasizing the significance for believers to be merciful. Mercy, in practical application, means to have and show compassion and to be charitable.
6)Forgiving:
Love is never too proud to seek forgiveness or too stingy to forgive. It is willing to let go of hurt and letdowns. Forgiveness allows us the opportunity to improve and correct ourselves. Islam emphasizes the principle that if we want God to forgive our mistakes, then we should be forgiving of others too.
7)Respect:
To love is to respect and value the person, their contributions,and their opinions. Respect does not allow us to take for granted our loved ones or to ignore their input. How we interact with our spouses reflects whether we respect them or not.
8)Confidentiality:
Trust is the most essential ingredient of love. When trust is betrayed and confidentiality compromised, love loses its soul.
9)Caring:
Love fosters a deep fondness that dictates caring and sharing in all that we do. The needs of our loved ones take precedence over our own.
10)Kindness:
The biography of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is rich with examples of acts of kindness he showed towards his family and particularly his wives. Even when his patience was tried, he was never unkind in word or deed. To love is to be kind.
11)Grows:
Marital love is not static, for it grows and flourishes with each day of marital life. It requires work and commitment, and is nourished
through faith when we are thankful and appreciative of Allah's blessings.
12)Enhances:
Love enhances our image and beautifies our world. It provides emotional security and physical well being.
13)Selflessness:
Love gives unconditionally and protects dutifully.
14)Truthful:
Love is honesty without cruelty and loyalty without compromise.
"Islam didn’t make it Haram for you to fall in love. It didn’t forbid you from wanting someone. It only guides that love so it protects you, her, your families and especially saves you from humiliation on judgment day. If you love her so much, why are you ok with letting her engage in this questionable relationship knowing full well that she will have to answer Allah just like you will. You don’t love her enough to save her from that?"
-Nouman Ali Khan
( this is specially for those who say love is not permitted in Islam
#dawah )
To love someone is a natural emotion, and there is absolutely no sin if one loves another person; it is what one does and says after one has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!
If one falls in love, and informs one’s guardians that they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
But if one falls in love, and strives to meet or talk to the person in secret and in private, and in their love transgress the boundaries of Allah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran (Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: 5 )
This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.
The basic difference is that love between man and woman in the Islamic context can only be realized and expressed in a legal marriage.
In order to develop a healthy avenue for the expression of love between a man and woman, and to provide security so that such a loving relationship can flourish, it is necessary to give it the protection of Shariah (Islamic law).
Marital love in Islam inculcates the following:
1) Faith:
The love Muslim spouses have for each other should be for the sake
of Allah and to gain His pleasure. It is from Allah that we claim our mutual
rights (Quran 4:1) and it is to Allah that we are accountable for our behavior as husbands and wives.
2)It sustains:
Love is not to consume but to sustain.
Allah expresses His love for us by providing sustenance. To love in Islam is to sustain our loved one physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually, to the best of our ability.
(Note : To sustain materially is the husband’s duty. However, if the wife wishes she can also contribute)
3)Accepts:
To love someone is to accept them for who they are. It is selfishness to try and mould someone as we wish them to be. True love does not attempt to crush individuality or control personal differences, but is magnanimous and secure to accommodate differences.
4)Challenges:
Love challenges us to be all we can, it encourages us to tap into our talents and it takes pride in our achievements. To enable our loved one to realize their potential is the most rewarding experience.
5)Merciful:
Mercy compels us to love and love compels us to have mercy. In the Islamic context the two are synonymous.
The attribute Allah chose to be the supreme for Himself is that He is the most Merciful. This attribute of Rahman (the Merciful) is mentioned 170 times in the Quran,emphasizing the significance for believers to be merciful. Mercy, in practical application, means to have and show compassion and to be charitable.
6)Forgiving:
Love is never too proud to seek forgiveness or too stingy to forgive. It is willing to let go of hurt and letdowns. Forgiveness allows us the opportunity to improve and correct ourselves. Islam emphasizes the principle that if we want God to forgive our mistakes, then we should be forgiving of others too.
7)Respect:
To love is to respect and value the person, their contributions,and their opinions. Respect does not allow us to take for granted our loved ones or to ignore their input. How we interact with our spouses reflects whether we respect them or not.
8)Confidentiality:
Trust is the most essential ingredient of love. When trust is betrayed and confidentiality compromised, love loses its soul.
9)Caring:
Love fosters a deep fondness that dictates caring and sharing in all that we do. The needs of our loved ones take precedence over our own.
10)Kindness:
The biography of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is rich with examples of acts of kindness he showed towards his family and particularly his wives. Even when his patience was tried, he was never unkind in word or deed. To love is to be kind.
11)Grows:
Marital love is not static, for it grows and flourishes with each day of marital life. It requires work and commitment, and is nourished
through faith when we are thankful and appreciative of Allah's blessings.
12)Enhances:
Love enhances our image and beautifies our world. It provides emotional security and physical well being.
13)Selflessness:
Love gives unconditionally and protects dutifully.
14)Truthful:
Love is honesty without cruelty and loyalty without compromise.
"Islam didn’t make it Haram for you to fall in love. It didn’t forbid you from wanting someone. It only guides that love so it protects you, her, your families and especially saves you from humiliation on judgment day. If you love her so much, why are you ok with letting her engage in this questionable relationship knowing full well that she will have to answer Allah just like you will. You don’t love her enough to save her from that?"
-Nouman Ali Khan
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